Hello Beautiful people! It’s Hump Day! I hope you all are having productive weeks and that you’re ready for the long weekend! It’s been a long week for me and I’ve been looking forward to today’s post. So let’s jump right into it!
Sometimes when people say “I love you”, they mean actually mean… I love you but don’t make me mad. Or I love you but don’t change. Or I love you only because you love me. That’s not love. Loving someone is loving them without any of those conditions. You just love them. Period. Don’t place a condition on love, because in the end it may seem more like an agreement that could easily end up breaking your heart.
Talking without bad intention is a little more difficult. We’ve all said things that we didn’t mean. Though we may have went back and apologized for saying those things, we can’t change the fact that they were still said. So what to do now? This may sound cliche, but think before you speak. Seriously, think it out. I’m not talking about saying it in your head once. I’m talking about work out responses that the other person may have to what you may say. Work out your response to their response. If you know that they will not be able to understand your point without getting upset, spend more time thinking. You should never want to hurt someone, however we can’t always predict how someone will react to our truth or “the” truth.
Now giving without any reason is very important in this quote. At a young age, my mother taught me what I believe as the “right way to give”. First she would tell me that when you give, give from the heart. Secondly, give without wanting anything in return. A lot of people may be generous givers, but expect you to give something in return. They are not giving without reason. If you give someone something, you should be happy and satisfied regardless if they give you anything in return or not. If you can’t be that way, then you have no business “giving” anything to anyone. At least not until you know how to give the right way.
The last part of this quote I believe sort of ties with giving. But caring without expectation is truly an important trait to have. To just care about people and not expecting them to care back is a gift that not everyone has, but everyone should strive to have. That’s why not everyone can be caretakers, nurses, or good parents. When you care without expectation, you’re always putting yourself in a vulnerable state. People will look to to you to help them even if you can’t help yourself the same way. You’re looked at as being both sympathetic and empathetic. It will have it’s ups and downs. But most of all, people who are this way find satisfaction in just helping others. Nothing else matters.
So I challenge all of you today to see how you can be better. Maybe you can’t be all of these things at once. So try doing one. Then another. And another. In the end you’ll feel much better, and probably help a lot of other people be better too. Have a great day, and don’t forget to spread some PositiviTea!